In Moderate behaviours actions have a loud voice...

and to voice by mouth our preferences or abstinences can have the effect of being judgemental, boorish and offensive. So the best way to build a mutually respectful relationship is to find, over time, common interests for discussion while continuing your good habits and behaviours, and voice advice only when it is insisted upon by others and wqithin your expertise, or necessary to prevent the loss of life. If you want somenone to respect you and your philosophy in a way that they might accept that philosophy themselves personally, then they must feel attracted to it--not forced or goaded into it; for as soon as the enforcer is gone, they will flee to their own predilections.